Sunday, May 27, 2012

Post Wedding Stress for the Mom of the Bride

Good Morning, if that is what you would like to call it. I had a terrible time sleeping last night. To many things to do, all rolling around in my head. I guess, I would have to categorize my behavior as being a little stressed. 

My oldest is getting married to a wonderful guy, but this wedding planning, getting everything in order, guests readying your home and there it is MONEY! Its hard to get my head wrapped around this one. Today the costs of a wedding can be out of this world. Don't get me wrong, were not made out of money and we have a low budget, but still. Okay, just breathe...

My oldest daughter is about to wed
Many happy tears I have shed
May all their dreams come to pass
Many wishes for my lass...

Friday, May 4, 2012

Sheila Sheelagh-Dissolving Her Marriage

To:      Ed Husted
From: Lee Ann Atencio
Date:  5/4/2012
Re:      Sheila Sheelagh-Dissolving Her Marriage
What would be the most expedient way for our client Mrs. Sheelagh to dissolve her marriage from her husband, which she has not seen for nearly three years and she presumes him dead?
Short Answer
After doing an extensive exploration on what would be the most expedient way our client could dissolve her marriage with the least amount of time and resistance, would be getting a divorce based off of desertion. A diligent search would have to be done to locate her missing husband, showing a good faith effort. This road would be the less problematic for our client.
Statement of Facts
Mrs. Sheelagh is married and her husband has vanished for nearly three years. She last saw her husband in April 2009, when he left on a work assignment. Her husband was working for Blackwater Worldwide, a private company which mainly does work for the C.I.A. Mrs. Sheelagh’s husband told her right before he left that he was going to Central America on a secret mission which he could not discuss with her, but he had described it as a “cloak and dagger” mission. He also stated that there was a possibility he might not return.
Mrs. Sheelagh has not seen her husband or had any messages from him or anyone on his behalf since he left in April 2009. She has tried to contact his employer, Blackwater Worldwide, but they will not communicate with her, claiming “national security.” Mrs. Sheelagh strongly believes that her husband is dead, but does not have any proof.
Mrs. Sheelagh has gotten on with her life and has been living with her boyfriend. She does not feel comfortable with the situation and would like to see their relationship evolve to marriage. Hence, she would like detach herself from her husband as quickly as possible to re-marry.
My first research centered on finding cases in the State of Alaska which referenced divorcing one’s spouse, in addition to not living in the same state. In the opinion that was written on, Vanvelzor v. Vanvelzor, 219 P.3d 184 (Alaska 2009), the husband sought a divorce from his wife, who did not live in Alaska. He moved here for employment and his intent was to remain. On page 191, number 3, Westlaw stated “Although the superior court did not have personal jurisdiction over Jessica, it had jurisdiction to grant annulment or divorce.” On the same opinion page, they held that Alaska courts have jurisdiction over the cessation of a marriage if one of the petitioners is in the State of Alaska and intends to stay, even if the court does not have personal jurisdiction over the other party.
In the case of Crews v.Crews, 769 P.2d 433 (Alaska 1989), the wife left the husband and moved to Alaska. Her husband never lived in Alaska. Alaska court did not have personal jurisdiction over her personal claims against her husband, such as property division and child support. The case cited an Alaska Statute AS 25.24.080, which is the residence requirement for a plaintiff in an action to declare the marriage void in the state of Alaska.
Under the AS 25.24.050 (4), a divorce may be granted for any of the following grounds: willful desertion of a period of one year, this is the one that our client’s case would fall under.  The definition of willful is deliberate, voluntary, and intentional and by what our client has told us, her husband meets this definition.
Under Alaska Civil Rule 4 (e) other service is used when diligent inquiry has been made to track down a person to serve them with documents and the person cannot be found.  Alaska Civil Rule 4 (e) (1) the party must make a good faith effort in tracking down the missing person, via internet, known residences, employment, etc. After this has been done, the party then writes out an affidavit and submits it to the court.
I would believe that after doing the research under Alaska State Law, Mrs. Sheelagh would be able obtain a divorce based off the grounds of willful desertion.
There is another possibility of looking at presumption of death under AS 13.06.035 (5):
an individual whose death is not established under (1) - (4) of this section and who is absent for a continuous period of five years, during which the individual has not been heard from, and whose absence is not satisfactorily explained after diligent search or inquiry, is presumed to be dead; the individual's death is presumed to have occurred at the end of the period unless there is sufficient evidence for determining that death occurred earlier.
Under another set of statutes, they allow a district court judge or magistrate to make a finding that permits declaration of death of a person who has vanished much shorter period of time than the above presumption of death. AS 09.55.020 says that, “if no one submits a petition within 40 days, a judge or magistrate may submit the petition from personal knowledge of the case.”
The latter part of this search could prove to be a possible remedy for Mrs. Sheelagh in the declaration of death, which would take at least 40 days for the judge or magistrate just to summit the petition for presumption of death, not including the diligent search that would have to be done.
One more possibility to look at, “The Enoch Arden Doctrine,” this provides a good faith belief in the death of one’s spouse predicated upon his/her absence for a period of years, and will shield the remarrying partner from criminal bigamy. In some jurisdictions in addition to raising a shield to bigamy, after a certain number of years it will give the subsequent marriage legal status. Another name is “Domestic Relations Law 220 and 221,” this authorizes a spouse to commence a special proceeding to dissolve a marriage when the other spouse has been missing for five or more years, providing that the missing spouse is  presumed dead. The name “Enoch Arden” is named after the poem written by Lord Alfred Tennyson. These are special proceedings and rarely used, although I have found that the State of New York does cite the Enoch Arden in several cases. One case was Lambert v. Lambert, 1 N.E. 2d 833 (N.Y.1936), this case was where the lady married and she had not heard from her husband since 1913. It is now 1925, in which she has become acquainted with another person and wants to marry. She uses the Enoch Arden Doctrine in order to get a dissolution of marriage from her husband. She does marry said person on the same day she gets dissolution of marriage signed by the courts. In this particular case her current husband later uses the Enoch Arden Doctrine against her on the grounds that the court lacked the jurisdiction to grant the order to begin with.  In another case, In re Rogers’ Estate, 275 N.Y.S. 140 N.Y.Sur (1934), the wife procured adjudication of the marriage in the Supreme Court, Queens County, dissolving the marriage under the so-called Enoch Arden Law because of the absence of her husband, for a period of five years. She wanted monies from his estate to support her lifestyle. Come to find out her husband correspondingly procured dissolution of marriage based off of the same grounds, in the Westchester County. These facts came to light in court and the claim was disallowed.
I believe this remedy for our client would be extremely problematic and possibly cause issues down the line if the husband did re-surface.
After the widespread research of several likelihoods of dissolving our clients marriage, starting with divorce due to desertion, presumption of death, and then finally the Enoch Arden decree. It is in my opinion to recommend divorce based off of willful desertion.  I believe this would be the less problematic way to go, emotionally and financially. We would in fact have to do a diligent search for her husband showing good faith, even though we understand we will be meeting resistance from his employer. This of course will take a moderate portion of time and we will need information from our client in order to accelerate the situation.